Conversations.
March 12th, 2007. Published under General. 1 Comment.
I had a discussion with a friend today about personal relationships.
She just had a falling out with a long-term friend and the topic came up of what one would do if things started to devolve into nasty behavior.
It’s taken me a couple of years and a lot of work - but I’m of the mindset of to just let things go, no matter how nasty someone gets. I’ve always had a long fuse, and I’m quite a forgiving person - but there have been times where I was deliberately been snotty to someone who slighted me in some way, shape or form. I’ve also deliberately stirred things up just to get back at someone or to get a reaction out of them.
Not anymore.
The way I look at it - the momentary satisfaction is offset by the long, lingering consequences of that action. So, I bite my tongue and ignore it. Half the time, the silence has a better result.
What I don’t understand is why people can’t let go of things - why they hang onto their perceived slights and wrongs like their life depended upon it. What good does it do? You’re never completely right about how things happened - situations aren’t always black or white. Life is a big mess of gray with tiny bits of black and white thrown in. Get over it, get over yourself and move forward. If there’s someone in your life who contributes nothing but negativity to your life - then why are you so determined to keep them a part of it? It’s not selfish to put your own best interests in front of others - especially if the interests of others are destructive.
Life’s too short to be surrounded by people who don’t give a crap.
I should write Hallmark cards. LOL.
Jennifer on March 13th, 2007
Word.
It’s basically never worth it to stir the shit. Not to say we all haven’t done it, but … yeah.